I’m standing at my car waiting for my kids to jump in at the end of their school day.
One of the mums who is normally very friendly catches the attention of another mum.
Quite words are spoken between the two.
My radar kicks in………………
Straight away my thought shift into, they are talking about a birthday party my daughter is being excluded from, again!!
My headraces, I’m distracted, the kids annoy me and I am impatient and cranky with them.
What is wrong with people I think, why would they want to exclude her, how hurtful is this?
I am almost certain that my daughter has picked up on what was going on, so I am feeling even more defensive and protective of her.
My focus has immediately moved into negative, not fair, why is she always being left out, doesn’t she have enough to deal with – Do you get my drift?
This morning at drop off it all started again when this mother did not respond to my good morning wishes and smile. Well that confirmed everything in a spilt second, she must now be feeling guilty!
All this happens in a matter of seconds, is any of this TRUE?
Who knows……
Does it serve me and my daughter well to go into this head spin of pity, absolutely not.
Fact: I have no idea what these mums were talking about and it is none of my business – paranoia
Fact: It is absolutely normal and OK for my child not to be invited to birthday parties; she is not everyone’s friend
Fact: Even if she was a friend and the mother did not feel comfortable about including my daughter, this is OK to. Why would I want her included in a party when the host did not feel confident about keeping my daughter safe.
I guess what I am trying to point out, is that thoughts are very powerful things and they are just, that “thoughts’ not facts and often not reality.
If my focus is on my daughter being excluded then this is what I am going to seek evidence for.
So be mindful of what your fleeting thoughts are supporting, flick the ones that reinforce negative and support the ones that serve you well.
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